Scripture:
Hebrews 12:7 Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?
Observation:
The struggle here is against sin – the one that clings so closely (v 1). This verse answers a question that is not often answered in the Bible, or life – why? And the answer is God’s fatherly love. “He loves us just the way we are but loves us WAY too much to leave us that way.” This reasoning cancels all pity parties, takes down anger and bitterness and puts a loving relationship in their place. Since God’s purpose in discipline (lit. “scourging”) is our correction, it is always a valid question to ask “What are You trying to teach me?”, because there is always an eternal, beneficial answer. But it is universally a humbling truth God wants to impart, so the child of God should never expect to be puffed up by what is learned though s/he will be warmed with love.
Application:
What’s my hardship? I should not compare it to that of any other, for the lesson I am to learn is an individual one. What is that lesson? It is definitely NOT one of my having it all together or being in the right. I need to remember it’s not just any sin being confronted – it is my central sin. And I need to know that it dies hard. So I need to stop building alliances with whom to commiserate. For they will take me down thought paths that doubt even God’s existence, call what I do masochistic (or worse) and humiliate my faith that sees good coming from evil. Indeed, it was the most evil act perpetrated by humankind that won my salvation. So then, I must stop considering myself as anything more than a sinner saved by grace and anything less than God’s beloved child. My difficult circumstances, unfair treatment and times of unmet want and need all prove I am no orphan. And God scourges those he loves.
Prayer:
Father, thank you for this reminder of why I am where I am and why I go through the hard times. Truly, You have crafted them for my righteousness. Grant that I might yield to Your will, see the glorious outcome and walk free of angst. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Important caveat:
The victim of abuse, no matter the gender or situation, must hear a different application. This is not, and will never be, a call to simply bear with a more redemptive attitude the blows of a bully. In those cases, the very lesson to be learned is to see yourself as God sees you, to learn your intrinsic and precious worth and take emotional and physical steps to affirm that worth – i.e. after seeking counsel and prayer, get out. There are infinite variants of situations though, and there is no hard rule or measurement for when to do what. God takes no pleasure in the suffering of His child; a bully does. Let THAT be the distinction.